Non-organic sexual pain

　　Commonly seen in the subconscious influence of erroneous knowledge in childhood, strong sexual repression, sexual guilt, and sense of shame lead to the influence of anxiety, as well as interpersonal relationship troubles, the heavy burden of work pressure, and lack of sexual charm in sexual objects.

　　1、阴道干燥。

　　性激素水平低下可引起阴道干燥，易受刺激，由此而引起性交疼痛。

　　2、男方勃起功能不良及阳萎

　　性交疼痛可诱发性唤起及性高潮功能障碍及性交困难等，也可导致男方勃起功能不良及阳萎等。

　　阳痿是指在有性欲要求时，阴茎不能勃起或勃起不坚，或者虽然有勃起但无法达到一定程度的硬度，因而妨碍性交或不能完成性交。

　　具有体现为在性交过程中男性感到阴茎疼痛或不舒服，女性在阴道性交的全过程或在阴茎插入很深时发生疼痛，而且这些疼痛的产生并非由于生殖器的器质性病变，也不是由于阴道痉挛和阴道干燥所致。表现为性交疼痛的患者性欲和性唤起持续处于低水平状态，个体和情感满意度下降，抑郁和焦虑情绪增多。

　　1、学习有关性知识消除对性生活的错误认识和观念；

　　2、尽快到医院检查应该到较正规的医院作妇科检查；

　　3、如果是患阴道疾病应接受正规治疗;如果是生殖器官先天畸形经外科手术治疗后就可以避免痉挛的发生；

　　4、注意生活起居情况，如果身体阳气不足，平时多进温补药物与食物。少吃生冷，坐卧宜暖，尤其在经期与产后，要防止风寒之邪从下部入侵。

 　  1、有精神、心理因素病史，或有器质性疾病病史可查。

　　2、阴道内指诊有环绕阴道外1/3部分肌肉非自主性痉挛和缩窄，容指等特征。

　　为了正确诊断，也必须详细了解夫妻双方的婚姻、性生活史以及有关社会心理背景，分析痉挛的发生原因，排除器质性疾病因素。

　　1、当归红花酒：当归100克，红花100克，白酒500克，红糖适量。将当归、红花和红糖装入纱布袋内，扎紧口。将白酒倒入酒罐，盖好盖，浸泡7天后，即可饮用。

　　功效：补血散瘀。适用于妇女血虚、血瘀性性交后腹痛等症。

　　2、丁香煮酒：丁香5粒，黄酒50毫升。将丁香洗净，放入瓷杯中，再将黄酒倒入瓷杯里。将瓷杯上笼煮10分钟即成。

　　功效：温补下元，止吐，止泻。适于感受风寒，性交后腹痛，腹胀，吐泻等症。

　　3、板蓝大青茶：板蓝根、大青叶、绞股蓝各30克，茶叶15克。水煎煮取汁代茶饮，1日1剂，水煎服。也可将原方用量加大20倍，研为粗末。每次用50～70克，置于保温瓶中，冲入沸水适量，加盖闷15～20分钟后，代茶频频饮用。饮至将尽时，再冲再饮。

　　Effect: clearing heat and detoxifying, promoting wetness and correcting. Mainly for chronic pelvic congestion syndrome, accompanied by fatigue, poor appetite, aversion to cold, fever, lower abdominal fullness or pain, short and red urine, red tongue with greasy fur, floating and wiry pulse, and other symptoms.

　　4. Stewed pork kidney: Pork kidney 2 pieces, 15 grams of eucommia, 30 grams of walnut meat. Cut the pork kidney open, remove the renal pelvis, wash clean, and cook with eucommia and walnut meat until cooked. Remove eucommia and walnut meat. Eat the pork kidney with a little fine salt, which can be eaten as a side dish.

　　Effect: tonifying the kidney and yang, strengthening the waist and benefiting the Qi. Mainly for post-coital abdominal pain and waist pain, general weakness, aversion to cold, cold limbs, frequent urination, blurred vision, sexual apathy, and has certain auxiliary therapeutic effects on male impotence, seminal emission, and low sperm count.

　　5. Pork kidney porridge: Pork kidney 2 pieces, 50 grams of glutinous rice, scallion, five-spice powder, ginger, and salt in appropriate amounts. Cut the pork kidney open, remove the renal pelvis, wash clean, cut into thin slices, wash the glutinous rice clean, and cook together in a pot. Add scallion, ginger, salt, and five-spice powder when it is about to be cooked. Eat it as breakfast.

　　Effect: tonifying the kidney and strengthening the waist. Suitable for post-coital abdominal pain, mainly with drawing pain, abdominal pain with a sense of emptiness, accompanied by weak pain in the waist and knees, difficulty in walking, deafness, and other symptoms.

　　The above-mentioned is the food therapy method to improve sexual pain. There are many methods to treat sexual pain, due to individual differences, each person's condition may also be different. Therefore, if there is an abnormal condition, it is necessary to go to a regular hospital for examination and treatment in time to avoid unnecessary consequences.

　　1. Overcome fear psychology

　　Sex is the great way of human, normal married men and women should perform this Zhougong ceremony. Both lovers not only get physical union but also achieve spiritual sublimation. Why be afraid of such a wonderful thing? The most commonly used method to overcome fear is meditation and relaxation. The relaxation method can use progressive relaxation training, which through repeated 'contraction-relaxation' cycle training, makes people aware of what is tension, thus improving the ability to eliminate tension and achieve relaxation. The specific steps are:

　　1. In a quiet environment, sit comfortably in the middle or lie on the bed. Ask the patient to close their eyes and take a few deep breaths, each breath should be slow.

　　2. Tell the patient: 'We will carry out a systematic relaxation plan. First, please clench your right hand for 5 seconds and slowly count from 1 to 5. Then relax your right hand, and pay attention to the difference between relaxation and tension. Repeat this again, focusing on the tension and relaxation of the fingers, palm, wrist, and forearm.'

　　3. After completing the training of the right hand twice, proceed in order to the right arm, left hand, left arm, neck and shoulders, neck, face and scalp, chest and back, abdomen, and the entire upper body, buttocks, thighs, feet, and the whole body continuously perform this kind of training. Each time, the patient is asked to contract the muscles → maintain this contraction for 5 minutes → relax for 30-40 seconds.

　　4. Continue to keep the patient in a sitting or lying position, feeling the sense of relaxation and comfort. Through this training, people can achieve spiritual relaxation through physical relaxation.

　　Two, establish the psychology of equality between men and women

　　Many women's sexual pain and difficulties during copulation are caused by psychological inequality. Due to the influence of social customs, old ideas, and pressure, the existence of the remnants of feudal等级思想 for many years, reflected in sexual activities, women are often in a passive and negative state. Sometimes there are two completely opposite views on the evaluation of male and female copulation. In the feudal society, men could have three wives and four concubines, while women were not allowed to remarry after the death of their husbands. Men's sexual desires were considered legitimate, while women's pursuit of this aspect was considered licentious. Some even tolerated male extramarital sexual production, and premarital sexual production was even more blameless. If a woman has the above problems, it is a violation of the 'heavenly law' and belongs to a slut. The long-term existence and influence of this unequal concept is reflected in the legality of conjugal copulation, also making men and women unequal. In view of the painful consequences that this concept may bring to some people, some sex psychologists advocate emphasizing that successful copulation must break through the silence and barriers, and must abandon the traditional and oppressive bashfulness. Therefore, psychological equality between men and women during copulation should be advocated, that is, equal sexual desire, equal ways of expressing sexual desire, equal initiative, etc.

　　Three, create a good sexual love environment atmosphere

　　The environment can most influence a person's psychological response, and whether the environment for love-making is appropriate is an indispensable condition for treating copulation disorders.

　　Human copulation is different from that of animals, not only legal but also civilized, but it is also necessary to choose a suitable environment for love-making. relatively speaking, a suitable environment is one of the important conditions for the success of copulation. Generally speaking, both husband and wife should create a favorable environment for copulation from the following aspects: generally, a room with a smaller area should be chosen as a bedroom, as quiet and as little disturbance as possible, the curtains should be able to block the strong light from entering; in the case of multiple people living in the same room, it is necessary to construct a space that feels like a separate world. The bed should be comfortable according to each person's habits, the bedding should be clean, and the most favorite color and style should be chosen. Generally, people prefer to engage in copulation under relatively dark light, as darkness can concentrate people's emotions. However, complete darkness is not good either, as it can affect people's sexual stimulation from visual stimuli. For example, the beauty of the naked body, the expression of eyes, and the transmission of expressions. Therefore, using colored low-wattage lights to decorate the bedroom is more appropriate. In addition, even in the case of many people living in the same room, do not isolate the space for putting on pajamas too strictly, so as not to affect air circulation. Especially after copulation, people fall asleep quickly, fresh air is helpful for sleep and helps to recover physical strength. In special cases, some couples may have copulation during the day, which requires the transformation of the copulation environment, especially the indoor darkness level. Some non-marital copulators have little room to choose the copulation environment, often in a hurry, which has a certain impact on the satisfaction and pleasure of copulation, and it may leave a shadow on the psychological level. In this sense, non-marital copulation is also a very imprudent behavior.

　　Four: Carry out sexual foreplay reasonably

　　This is something that cannot be ignored by men, as many wives have difficulties and pain during sexual intercourse, which is often caused by the husband's rough entry during the first time. Sexual foreplay can cause women to reach a high level of sexual excitement, and in this situation, slight pain is often not noticeable.

　　The pleasure of sexual foreplay does not have a fixed standard and is often related to psychological factors, life experiences, and education, thus having the characteristic of being different for different people. For example, a sentence full of literary charm can move a person with literary cultivation, but it will have no effect on someone without such cultivation. Due to these reasons, many people have formed unique preferences for sexual foreplay. This is like eating, with people in the north preferring salty and those in the south preferring sweet, and those in the east preferring spicy and those in the west preferring sour, each with their own taste. Some people prefer to caress certain parts, even forming a conditioned reflex, where they become excited upon touching that area. This may be because the sexual psychology of women is more complex and their sexual sensations are slower, and this part may not even be within the sensitive area. Before engaging in foreplay, one must consider two factors: whether the other person can understand and whether the other person can accept. Sexual life is not just a physical activity but also accompanied by a rich range of emotional changes. Therefore, to know whether the other person can understand or accept, one often cannot rely on direct questioning (which is disliked by many women), but must rely on careful observation and careful thinking. Do not destroy the established sexual excitement between the two, turning from a lively interest to a boring one.

　　Marriage counseling experts often encounter examples of this kind. For instance, a middle-aged woman came to the marriage counseling center in tears, determined to go through a rehearsal with the counselor. She didn't want to disappoint her husband, so she reluctantly agreed. However, after trying it once, her husband became highly interested and found it hard to let go. After each session, she would secretly shed tears, thinking that such things were not done by decent people, but only by prostitutes. When her husband applied this method to her, it showed that he had lost respect for her, which was the cause of her sadness and tears. This example illustrates that foreplay also has a dual nature; when used well, it can enhance the harmony and pleasure of sexual life, but when used poorly, it can destroy the perfection of sexual life and even threaten the relationship between husband and wife.

　　五、进行阴道肌肉松驰技术练习

　　这一行为治疗方法对由于阴道痉挛所引起的性交疼痛尤为有效。

　　阴道痉挛是阴道周围肌肉发生的不自主反射性痉挛，有的甚至包括股内收肌群。它有三种型：初次交媾后发生痉挛的，称原发性阴道痉挛；曾经有过交媾成历的经历后来才发生痉挛的，称继发性阴道痉挛；由于改变交媾环境而发生的，称为境遇性阴道痉挛，这种情况比较少见。分析阴道痉挛的原因，不外乎以下几佧方面：家庭教育对性的方面过于严厉和持否定态度；暗示性的自卑和自罪感；情感上的焦虑、厌烦、抑郁、恐惧；幼儿心灵的创伤；初次交媾的疼痛，诱发和形成条件反射；交媾操作技术不当等等。

　　阴道肌肉松驰技术：让女方作腹部、大腿内侧和阴道口肌肉的连续收缩和放松活动，使其对肌肉的松紧有控制感。方法是女方将手指尖轻柔插入阴道口，同时体验阴道肌肉的收缩与松驰。如果她对手指插入阴道感到困难，可采取深呼吸的方林来放松。然后治疗医生再轻轻地作阴道检查，并向病人表示插入阴道的手指或阴道扩张器并未引起阴道痉挛或不适。同时，鼓励女方谈谈括入阴道时引起的焦虑问题，并告诉女方自己不戴手套作阴道检查，这样有助于督促女方认识自己生殖器是完整无缺和洁净的。男医生作检查时必须有一位女性陪伴在场。这种阴道检查，在治疗阶段可多安排几周。如果问题不严重可压缩到一周，如女方自己能作阴道检查操作时，则要求她在家里重复进行。